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Hey friend.

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You're listening to Harmonious Mompreneur, where faith, family and business come together.

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I'm your host, Phylicia Pough, a Christian wife, mom of two, and life and business system strategist for moms.

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If you've ever felt like there just aren't enough hours in the day, or find yourself craving more time for yourself but feel guilty about it, you're in the right place. While many strive for balance, I believe it's harmony, an integrated flow that works for you, that truly sustains. Each week I'll share insights from my.

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Personal journey and practical strategies to help.

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You design systems that bring peace to.

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Your business and home life. So give your kids another snack, take a deep breath and let's dive into today's episode where we'll start creating your harmonious Mompreneur life. Hey friend. So what does it look like to let God lead your life and business?

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That is the question I am answering today. So this is going to be a faith heavy episode. Just a heads up if you've never.

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Experienced that type of content from me, but I am a Christian in the sense of I believe in the Bible, I believe in the Trinity, the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, and I believe in the death, the burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ. Now, having said all of that, sometimes you can have the title of I'm doing air quotes Christian but not really.

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Be following Christ or living a Christian lifestyle or adhering to Christian values.

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Right.

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So what does it really look like.

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To integrate your Christian values into your business in life? I'm going to share what it looks like for me.

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So just to give you a little.

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Bit of backstory about my experience, I've been in church all my life, so I know the Baptist or the Kojic church culture very well. I got baptized when I was young, maybe nine or ten.

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Despite those things, I did not always have a deep relationship with God. Right. I knew a bit about who he.

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Was, but once the pandemic hit and I stopped going to church, my relationship with God actually strengthened because I was reading my Bible more and I was.

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Praying more and I was aligning my.

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Actions with the Word of God.

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And so I do not have all.

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Of the answers and I do not.

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Know all of the things, but what.

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I do have is experience with him and I've seen him move in ways in my life that I know he is real to me. Okay, so I remember this one particular time.

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This was years ago.

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I had just started my entrepreneurial journey and who that's a whole nother story for another day. But if I could go back, I would not have started my journey when I did. But, you know, it presented some financial hardships. And I was in a space where this one particular day I woke up, my bank account was in the negative. But I was also in a season where I was. I had dedicated my Mondays, half of.

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My Mondays, or at least until noon, to be in prayer and to be in worship.

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And so this was a Monday that I. That I looked at my bank account, it was in the negative. You know, I didn't worry because there.

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Was literally nothing I could do about it.

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And I went into my prayer and my worship time. When I came out of that prayer and worship time, I had a cash.

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App from my friend. And when I tell you the amount of money that she sent was literally.

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Enough to cover the overdraft and in my bank account and to give a tithe, I was floored. I had not told her anything about my financial situation.

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Nothing.

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And to be provided for in that way, that strengthened my trust in God.

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Another story that I'll just share briefly.

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Is I'm trying to decide what parts.

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Of this story to tell because it's.

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So much, you know, one day my husband and I, we will tell our full testimony. So we had our daughter before we were married. And you know, things were not in a great place.

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But I was feeling prompted by God to like, pray for him more, to fast specifically for him for specific things.

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And I didn't really know why.

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Right.

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And I never told him that I was, you know, fasting and praying for him.

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But I had participated in this corporate fast with this ministry.

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I did the fast in October and November of 2021, I believe. And I did not do it in.

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December of 2021, but in December of.

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2021, my husband, well, my now husband.

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He began to tell me about how in December he had this encounter with.

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God and how he was surrendered to God.

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And this was one of the things.

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That I was challenged with in our.

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Relationship because I knew his faith was not where it needed to be for me to be able to fully submit.

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Myself to him as a.

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But I was never praying for him to change.

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It was like, okay, God, if this is your will, it'll happen, and if not, then not.

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And I was totally okay with us being co parents at the time, especially since things just weren't. They didn't seem to be making sense at the time.

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And so one of the things I specifically fasted for him was that the.

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Scales would fall off of his Eyes. Because for some reason, again, I believe this was Holy Spirit leading. I believe that he was being deceived spiritually. But I never told him this. I never told him these things.

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And so in December, when he told me he had this encounter with God and that, you know, he has surrendered.

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Over the next few weeks, you know, he would tell me bits and pieces of the story.

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And then in one conversation, he told me that he said specifically, it felt like scales fell off of my eyes. And I said what?

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Like, I had not told him about my prayers. I had not told him that I was fasting for him. But in that moment when he said.

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That, I knew I had to tell him and I told him about the whole thing. And it was just bizarre to me. And I. I truly believe that that fast definitely accelerated our journey because shortly.

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After, you know, things just transformed in our relationship.

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And so when I say I have experience with God, this is what I mean.

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There's lots of stories that I could.

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Tell, but, you know, I just wanted.

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To give you a little bit of.

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Backstory and some of the things that I've experienced. But what does it look like, you know, now, present day, day to day life? What are some practical examples of how God leads my business and my life? So sometimes when I come out of prayer or if I come out of fasting, I will feel prompted in my.

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Spirit to do something right.

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So I do not hear an audible voice. Like I, you know, people say, God spoke to me. God said.

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I do not hear an actual voice of God telling me to do things.

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What I feel is a prompting in my spirit. What I have learned, though, is that the key when I feel these promptings is to actually do them. So like I mentioned, there have been times where I ignored that prompting.

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And then something would happen, and then.

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I would realize, oh, I should have actually listened.

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So one time I felt a prompting.

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To reach out to my old pastor.

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So the pastor at the church that.

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I grew up in, I had not spoken to him in years. I left the church years ago, not on bad terms or anything, but my season of life was just different. I hadn't been there in a long time, hadn't talked to him in a long time, and he was not well. And I felt this prompting to reach out to him, but in my flesh, I felt like that would be weird because we haven't talked in forever, so I didn't do it. And then not long after, it could have been a week or three weeks at the most, he ended up passing.

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And so that sat with me for.

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A long time that I did not reach out. Like, who knows what that conversation would have been or what needed to be said in that conversation. I don't know. And so after that, I always said, like, if I feel this prompting, I am going to. I'm just going to be obedient, right? And so even the other day, I.

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Came out of prayer and I was prompted to text my husband a message.

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And in my flesh, y'all, I did not want to do it because I was upset about something, but I did it anyway. And I saw fruit from it. I saw a positive fruit from it. So that's kind of like one way that God leads my. My life and my business. It's just when I feel prompted to.

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Do something, actually being obedient to do it. Another thing I was prompted to do.

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Was to really be intentional about my connections. And this is something that God had, like, impressed on my heart. It's probably been more than a year now, maybe going on two years, but he was really impressing upon me to.

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Be intentional with my connections before I collaborate with somebody, before I work with someone. And so now before I do those things, I will watch people on social.

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Media, and a lot of times, people will reveal themselves, and someone might seem.

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Like a good person to collab with.

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Especially in the mompreneur space. But then when you dig a little bit deeper, I see and I find out that our values don't align, right? And of course, I don't see everything about people, and of course everything is.

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Not revealed about this person. But when things are revealed and I.

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See that, that we are out of alignment, then I have opted not to collab with people. Or I stopped following people on social media, especially if they. They claim to be a Christian and a follower of Christ, but their actions just aren't in alignment with that. You know, I choose not to collaborate.

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Or work with them or follow them. And it's not in a judgmental way, but it's more like there is a standard.

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And I'm just in a space in my life where I desire to be surrounded by believers who are really trying to walk out this life in a way that is pleasing to God. And so that's another way how he leads. Like, I'm being very diligent about my connections and how I, you know, just collaborate with people. I also daily I pray over my business. And so I really just ask God for divine downloads. Everything divine.

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Divine downloads, divine intervention, divine connections, divine guidance and strategy.

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Like, I want it all from him, Like I do not want anything worldly.

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To be affecting my decisions.

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And so I'm really praying for that intervention and that guidance from God. Even when I sit down to do my work, I have specific time blocks that I do work.

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Throughout the day.

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When I sit down at my desk before I start doing my work, I will pray and just, you know, ask God to clear my mind, to bring clarity, to bring strategy, you know, to.

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Give me supernatural focus, depending on, you.

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Know, what I'm led to pray. I'll just say a quick prayer before I start doing my work.

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What else? So anytime somebody is on my spirit.

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Now this kind of ties back to the story about my old pastor. But now anytime someone is on my spirit, like if they randomly pop up in my mind, I will pray for.

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Them, I'll say a quick prayer for them, or I will reach out with an encouraging message.

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And sometimes when I do reach out with that message, they're like, I really needed that. So you never know, you just never know.

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And what else?

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In my day to day life, I.

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Try to keep my faith priority.

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And I say try because I don't.

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Always hit the mark with this.

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I miss the mark a lot. But what I try to do is.

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Before I get on social media or.

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Before I get into my emails, I'm in my Bible, I need to read my Bible. And so right now, what I'm doing, I'm reading through the Bible from Genesis through to Revelation. And my desire there is to just have the knowledge and to strengthen my faith, especially with, you know, what's going on with the world right now. And I can honestly say that as.

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I am digging into the Bible, it.

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Has given me just such a peace. I'm not saying that I'm not concerned about what's happening in America right now, but there is a peace that surpasses all understanding. And it's because I am in my word. And then just another way that God is leading my life is how I.

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Interact with my children.

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I am praying always for guidance and.

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I am praying for self control because sometimes.

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And patience, right? Because sometimes just being with the kids all day, y'all know how toddlers can be. Sometimes I just need to not be in my flesh and to, to, to.

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Be in the spirit.

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And so I am asking for guidance and self control in how I'm interacting with my children so that they can.

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See Christ in me.

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But really, honestly, at the end of.

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The day, the ultimate goal with all of these things, yes, to strengthen my walk with Christ, but it's to let People see Christ in their interaction with me, right?

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This does not mean that I am.

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Preaching the Bible to somebody or that.

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I'm trying to convert anybody, because I absolutely am not. But am I operating in love?

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Are the fruits of the Spirit evident in my life? Right?

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Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control.

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Like, are these things evident?

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That is the ultimate goal is to let people see Christ in me.

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And so I just want to encourage you if you're on this faith journey.

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Right, take it day by day. And really it's not about religion or.

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Doing all of the things, but it's really about strengthening the relationship part. When I desired just to be closer to God, all of those other things followed.

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Like, I desired to pray more and.

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I desired to be in my Bible more.

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But it only came after I had that desire for the relationship to be strengthened. And so, you know, I would love.

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To continue this conversation. If you have a question about any.

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Of this, or if you just want to talk more about faith in business.

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You can always feel free to DM me on Instagram. You can email me hello the momceosuite.com.

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Or you can fill out my anonymous form. Like maybe you just have a question about something and you want to remain anonymous. You can fill out my ask me.

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Almost anything form all of those links. You can easily click them in the show notes and I'll be happy to.

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Chat with you guys.

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So I hope that this was encouraging.

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And edifying for you. Thank you so much for tuning in.

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With grace and gratitude, I will see.

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You in the next episode.

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